This program will help you undo financial bondage.
Many Christian husbands and wives have failed to honor their spouses in that ways that they should. Thus, feelings of appreciation have evaporated affecting the family and church in many ways including financial. The most tragic consequence is elimination of unity. When this is lacking spouses will not forge a common path of vision for the family and divorce inevitably ensues. Most go through divorce proceedings and spend lots of money on lawyers’ fees, settling property and custody issues, and obtaining loans to pay one another off. It costs even more when the divorce gets messy and is dragged out a long time.
Sometimes this process of dishonor and disrespect starts when people are dating and continues into marriage. Yet, lots of people act like they cannot see it. It started with the verbal or physical abuse or the failure to open up to supposed serious dating partner about fears, focus, vision, and financial situation. It also can be seen by whether or not the person is trying to buy you with gifts instead of speaking and showing love in more meaningful ways. Sometimes, it can be seen by the dating partner spending money you discern they do not have in order to impress you so they can ultimately have their way with you. These and other situations are warning signs telling us to avoid this particular person as a date and/or spouse or telling us to see if they are willing to be molded by God to be the good steward He wants them to be and you will need as a spouse.
Couples can avoid this pitfall by respecting the person you're dating or married to by treating them honorably pursuant to God's word in every area of the relationship: sexually (no fornication or adultery allowed), physically (no abuse), emotionally (no verbal abuse or silent treatment, etc.), and financially (as an example to them giving regularly to the spread the gospel, praying daily and when you meet with them, attending church with them, reading scripture with them daily, budgeting your income, eliminating debt and staying out of debt, building savings for the future that can be put toward marital endeavors if that takes place after a fruitful dating period.
Giving honor and affection to them through your communication, actions, prayer, and example are foremost in the heart of God from one spouse to another. Frequently telling your spouse that you love him or her regardless of how your emotions might feel at the moment is a necessity. You can always say in truth, I love you with the love of the Lord, I love you with the love of the Lord, I can see in you the beauty of our King, yes I love you with the love of the Lord!
A part of this process of giving honor to your spouse is to present a gift on special days (birthday, valentine day, etc.) according to your ability without abandoning good financial stewardship that God calls you to. It would not be honorable to God, your spouse, your children, or yourself to give them a material gift that causes you to be a poor steward of the money that God has entrusted to you. However, most of us have the ability to purchase a gift, craft a gift, or write something lovely about our spouse with going outside of that which we can truly afford at the current time. You must remember that good financial stewardship over the years will increase your ability to honor them using more expensive material gifts (that are within your affordability at that time) as a token of the love that you have for them deep within your heart.
Even if you can’t afford to buy your partner what he/she wants, you can promote a healthy relationship that fosters respect, unity, financial growth, and success by planning to give him or her on special days an affordable gift you have budgeted for (greeting card, homemade with a poem, a special service you’ll provide, etc.). If you are doing the best you can while seeking to please the Lord and honor Him in how you do it, then a grateful spouse will realize that love is shown by the fact that you thought of him or her and gave what you were able.
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Ephesians 5:25-30, Matthew 7:9-12, Romans 12:9-10, 1Peter 3:7
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